For all the girls and boys.

I have been thinking a lot for the past few days about us girls. About how we put ourselves down, think we aren't good enough and trying to find ways to make ourselves "better" in the eyes of others. I am just like most girls, trying to hard to be someone I'm not. Wanting to look like other girls and wanting to be "more".

Everything in life tells us what and who we need to be. We see pictures of these "perfect" girls and want to be like them. Instead of finding the good things about our bodies and lives, we just live in this fantasy of needing to strive for something out of our reach. I know that I am not even close to the "perfect" girl. Tall, slim, perfect skin, long hair, no tattoos, one ear piercing, heel and dresses. I'm tired of trying to be that girl. All I want is to be me and be happy with that.

I'm getting better at that. I'm realizing that I can't be this amazing girl unless it's me. That I can be amazing in myself. I just need to see the beautiful girl that I am when I look in the mirror instead of seeing all the things I want to change.

So... this next month I am going to work on that everyday. I will wear what I feel good in. Play with my make up in a fun way and not a "Please tell me I'm beautiful" way. I will do my best to eat, relax, work out and play to feel better. I will stop looking at magazines and comparing myself to the fake girls on the pages. I am taking a stand for my body, my soul and my place in this world as a beautiful girl.

Boys, this is what you should take out of this. Girls like being told they are pretty, beautiful, amazing, magnificent... all those nice words. We don't want to hear about how smoking hot and sexy we are. Unless we are in our short dresses, bright heels and looking great. We want to be told that we are impressive even in our sweats and a messy day old pony tail. You men need to stand up for us, tell us why you think we are beautiful and it should be more then our looks. Pick one of your favorite things about your girl and tell her about it. Maybe it's the way she scrunches her nose when she is thinking or how she stands on her toes when she cooks. Just tell her why you love her and let her know that she is what you want. All we need is a little reassurance. and love.